The Improper Romanticization of the Sigma

 A little over 11 years ago, Vox Day introduced his breakdown of the social-sexual hierarchy for men.  In his breakdown, he introduced the concept of the Sigma male.

This concept has been hotly debated over the years, with many people who analyzed Game either denying their existence or outright declaring themselves to be Sigma males.  Generally, I've found that anyone who classifies himself as a Sigma is more than likely a Gamma or Omega.

That aside, the concept was largely romanticized by armchair social analysts because they were perceived as the ideal man.  They were James Bond, the renegade who was suave with women but also literally went his own way, only settling down with a woman who accepts his disinterest as nothing personal.

More recently, Vox correctly pointed out that Hunter Biden was a Sigma male.  This, despite the fact that Hunter had zero qualms about banging his widowed sister-in-law, his niece, Obama's daughter, and funding Biolabs in Ukraine while smoking crack.

He doesn't sound like much of an ideal man, does he?

The truth is, the social-sexual hierarchy as laid out by Vox was never meant to be one to be something you can apply morality to.  This is a mistake that many men, especially Gammas and Deltas, make, assuming that men higher in status are also morally superior, in some way, with the Sigma being the chaotic good guy, as it were.

The social-sexual hierarchy is amoral.  It describes the behaviors of men at different levels of the hierarchy, it does not describe their moral inclinations.

But Sigmas are probably the least likely to be moral.  This is because of the nature of hierarchies in general.  You see, morality in society is largely maintained by its leaders.  In the social-sexual hierarchy, the man at the top is the one who generally sets the moral tone for those who are lower on the ladder.

Sigma men, however, tend to exist outside of the hierarchy and are therefore oftentimes immune to moral pressure from the Alphas and Bravos, for good or ill.  This means that Sigmas will have their own moral code if they have one at all.

If you think about it, it makes sense.  Hunter Biden is just as much a Sigma as James Bond was.  Serial Killer Ted Bundy was also a Sigma, whereas most serial killers are Omegas and Lambdas.

So being a Sigma man is probably not the best option for you.  While it could be perceived as the ideal place to be for many men, in actuality most Sigmas have a more negative impact on society than a positive one.

Not that many men can become a Sigma, to begin with.  Most of you who aspire to be one are low-end Deltas, Gammas, and Omegas.  My recommendation is to just be a Delta or Bravo.  You'll be more content that way and be pretty successful in life in general.

Also, you won't have to deal with pregnant strippers.

Social-Sexual Hierarchy Revisited

About six years ago, Vox Day published his socio-sexual hierarchy.  It is a good primer to figuring out how groups of men organize themselves.  Earlier this week, Davis Aurini had a debate with Robert Stark over the nature of the Gamma male.  I’d like to revisit that hierarchy because it still seems to be misunderstood, in my opinion, to this day:

• Alpha – The top of the hierarchy.  President Donald Trump is an Alpha.  He’s confident, boisterous, and handsome.  Usually Alphas are incredibly attractive, both physically and financially, as well as insanely confident.  Natural Alphas, however, cannot tell you how to be Alpha.  For example, recall a story of how Donald Trump took a model at a party and chose a bikini for her, shortly afterwards dating her for a time.  Most men could not pull that off.  The downside to an Alpha is that he is usually borderline, if not outright, sociopathic.  This means he doesn’t care for the female nonsense that most other men put up with.  Also, they tend to only marry top-tier women but are more than happy to bang mid-tier women.
• Beta – The second-in commands as it were.  They are usually confident but don’t brag as much.  Usually can acquire attractive women like the Alpha but generally don’t have nearly as high a notch count.  They are usually as attractive as an Alpha, but slightly more risk-adverse.  They do tend to remain more loyal to their wives than Alphas and are just generally good people to be around.
• Delta – The normal guy.  Most men are Deltas.  There is a range of Deltas because it’s such a broad range, but the common trait is that they are average in appearance, tend to have steady employment, and usually are the ones getting the work done under the supervision of the Betas.  Another trait that Deltas share is that they tend to not understand women all that well.  Often times, they think that women think the same way they do, just they have different biological parts.  On the high-end Deltas can be quite successful while on the low-end Deltas have trouble in marriage because they place their wives on a pedestal.  Women hate that.
• Gamma – These men would be low-end Deltas if they did not think of themselves as being secretly Alpha.  They are secret kings in their own mind and believe themselves to be worthy of admiration, which is often undeserved.  They are midwits when it comes to intelligence levels, which explains their superiority complex, and they hate the fact that no one else acknowledges this.  They are also on the unattractive side in terms of looks but don’t seem to understand or accept this.  Of all people in this hierarchy, the Gamma needs the most improvement but often times rejects criticism or even helpful advice, instead believing themselves to be gods among men.  Very dangerous if given any kind of power.
• Omega – The low-end of the tier.  Omegas are usually unattractive, introverted, and unsuccessful with women.  In many cases, they are so awkward around women, it can boggle the mind of the average person.  They’re the computer nerd you wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole.  The weirdo who has hygiene problems but doesn’t understand the big deal with eating his boogers in public.  Omegas can get married, but they usually marry low-tier women who are not all that attractive as well.
• Sigma – The outsider.  The introverted Alpha.  The successful Omega.  The Sigma is the unicorn of the hierarchy and you are probably not one.  The physical attractiveness of the Sigma varies, but they can be low or high.  The difference between an ugly Sigma and an Omega, though, is that the Sigma has that same confidence that an Alpha has, just with darker undertones.  When an Alpha encounters a Sigma, he is often put off by him because of the Sigma’s unwillingness to acknowledge the social hierarchy and his ability to still nail down women who are usually reserved for Alphas.  Very few men can become a Sigma and are more likely to become an Alpha.  In fact, if you aren’t a Sigma now, you will probably never be one.  In fact, the most likely type to make a transition to a Sigma is the Omega.  All an Omega has to do is simply talk to women and learn how to make himself more attractive to him while maintaining his nerdy behavior.  Not an easy feat, by the way.
• Lambda – Gays.  Really gay men have their own hierarchies, but because they are not a significant size of the population and because I am unfamiliar with the gay community, they kind of get dumped into this category.  There isn’t too much to say about them really.

Keep in mind that whenever you generally fit into any of these categories, that can change depending on environmental circumstances.  As a white man, for example, I couldn’t go to a black night club and be Alpha.  In fact, the best case I’d hope for there would be Delta.  But I could be Sigma in my own community.

As another example, if you have a whole workplace of Omegas, they will break into Alphas, Betas, Deltas, etc.  A man who is an Omega to the rest of the world could be the Alpha of his workplace.

Also, don’t fret over this.  We are all “snowflakes” after all.  Classifications are to be applied generally and this is no exception.  But it is a good primer for understanding how men organize themselves.

Game and Hellraiser

** Spoilers Ahead **

One of the more underrated horror movies to come out of the 1980s was Hellraiser, a movie about the dangers of extreme sadomasochism and the kind of people who engage in it.  It is also about the hazards of marrying an Alpha widow, something that most people overlook when watching the movie.

An Alpha widow, for those who do not know, is simply a woman who has had a sexual relationship with an Alpha man (usually an attractive and borderline psychopathic man) in the past and settles down with a lower-class man for financial support.  She still pines for her old fling but also stays married to the fool who thinks the world of her (which she secretly despises).

In the film, we see this dynamic play out with deadly consequences.  The film starts with Frank Cotton, a degenerate psychopath, who seeks out a box that will unlock higher levels of pleasure.  The box releases the Cenobites, a group of demons who take their subjects to the extreme levels of pleasure and pain.  Frank is torn apart and his soul dragged into Hell.

Sometime later, Frank’s brother Rory and his wife Julia move into the house Frank was squatting in (it was their grandmother’s house apparently).  Unknown to Rory, Julia had an affair with Frank a week before her marriage to Rory and she still pines for him.  This is shown when she finds a bunch of old photos in Frank’s abandoned belongings with his many sexual exploits and she flashes back to their time together.

Rory is the typical beta-male.  He has a good job (apparently), good friends, and is an all around nice guy.  However, he faints at the sight of blood.  He even tells the story of how he fainted in the hospital after cutting himself in the old house (a major plot point).  Julia is barely able to contain her contempt for Rory during the entire story and, in fact, ends up back in the attic to relive her memories of Frank instead of listen to Rory prattle on about his weakness.

It is here that she meets Frank, not much more than a rotten corpse, begging for her help.  Of course, Julia is all too eager to reconnect with Frank, the man who rocked her world over Rory, the nice guy who can’t stand blood.

And so Julia agrees to murder for Frank.  That’s right.  Frank gets her to murder a man so he can restore his own body and be with Julia.  Three men actually.

And then, after all is said and done, she let’s Frank kill Rory and skin him.  At it’s face, Julia has it all now.  She has Frank in Rory’s skin and I’m guessing in her mind, she has a man who will now keep her financially secure and rock her world all in one package.

Of course, things don’t work out the way Julia hoped for and ultimately she fails to realize that an Alpha man like Frank (not all Alphas are like Frank, by the way), doesn’t care about anyone but himself.

But I won’t spoil too much of the movie for you.  Check it out and apply Game principles.  It really is quite a masterpiece.

Future sequels were originally going to feature Julia as the main antagonist, which was hinted at in the second movie, but production instead favored the Hell Priest or Pinhead as he is called by his fans.  And what an interesting series of sequels it could have been had Julia been the main villain.

Response to 7 Things Your Husband Isn’t Telling You

The Huffington Post has an article listing the seven things men want from their wives.  I’m going to go through them because the article was written by a woman who is their “Divorce Editor”, whatever that means.

1. Men Want their Wives to Say, “I Love You”

Yes, every husband wants to know that his wife loves him.  Women desire their husbands to say this to them frequently so why not husbands?

2. Men Want Their Space, Especially After An Argument

As an introvert, I can agree with this.  But more importantly, men don’t like talking about their feelings.  We consider it to be beneath us to share our feelings with just about anyone.

So after an argument, give us space.  Most of our feelings go away pretty quickly so there’s no need to keep on trying to resolve something that needs time and distance.

3. Men Want Wives To Initiate Sex

This goes to a man being felt attractive and desirable.  Yes, we want to feel those things too for different reasons.

Even more important to us is not being rejected when we make sexual approaches.  It means that our wives still love us and want to be with us.

4. Men Want To be Heard

But when we shout, we’re being mean.

Seriously though, why is a woman writing this article?  Because women don’t want to hear it from men, that’s why.

5. Men Want to be Praised, Appreciated, And Validated

Yes, and most of that involves sex.  Blow jobs are the minimum.

6. Men Want To Be Touched

Again sex.

7. Men Want To Be Respected

Okay, this is an important one.  Men do want to be respected but at the same time, the more Alpha amongst us tend to not care as much.

You have to understand that when a man gets married, he is no longer able to Next his wife.  By “Next”, for those of you who aren’t very sharp, I mean stop his relationship with her and move on.  So when a woman disrespects a man and they aren’t married, he simply moves on.

But marriage removes that option and so a husband desires respect from his wife because it means that she wants to be with him.

Overall, this list is fairly accurate but it tends to treat men like they are women without boobs but a uterus and balls.

And most men are like that.  Which is why a woman had to write this article and provide about 67% of what men really want in their marriages.

MGTOW, PUA, and Neomasculinity

Feminism is the communist version of applying State controls on the sexual marketplace.  I suppose that is one definition that most people don’t really understand, but it explains why a lot of women can go along with feminism despite not knowing what it is truly about.

Ever since the lines of communication and travel were expanded in the last century, the dating market has expanded.  Beyond that, the modern Western society has done away with arranged marriages at all levels.  In the old days, you usually ended up marrying a local, usually at the behest of your parents.  The dating culture is a new phenomenon, largely created within the last century or so.

Because dating became the predominant form of courtship, it essentially opened up the sexual marketplace to a much broader range of choices, primarily for women.  As more and more laws were passed that benefitted married women, as well as traditions in marriage cast aside, we see marriage as nothing more than a social dating contract.

This is what feminists have done with the dating market.  They have applied market controls to something in order to determine the price and supply of a common good for men: women themselves.  And with these controls there is scarcity, more so than before, with proper women.

And so we see the rise of the MGTOW, the PUA, and the neomasculinist.  With the MGTOW, they’ve given up on society.  With the PUA, we see men who are taking advantage of the glut of the sexual marketplace and pumping and dumping as many women as they can.  And finally, we have the neomasculinist, who are a group dedicated to reclaiming manhood and forging out a way for all of us to benefit from the past lessons of patriarchy and the current culture of social media.

One thing that I’ve noticed among women is their open disdain for pornography.  And many men jump on board, with even Christian men calling men who look at porn to be adulterers.  I personally prefer it to be considered a failure to fuck your wife, but that’s besides the point.

What women do not understand is that pornography does not provide men with sexual satisfaction, only sexual release.  It is an advanced form of cuckolding that seeks to only provide a relief to our baser urges.  Any man who has had sex with a woman and used pornography can attest to the difference between release and satisfaction.

Now, I’m not saying that pornography is a moral thing.  I don’t believe it is and it definitely damages men with lust.  At the same time, however, it is the alternative to dealing with women.

What women need to understand is that the sexual marketplace is a market.  When men are finding themselves facing a growing trend of unattractive women whose personalities are even disgusting, we see more men turning to other sources for release.  And while satisfaction is preferable to release, satisfaction is increasingly risky and scarce while release is quick and practically free.

Feminism has created this environment.  And men are adjusting their behavior accordingly, either by checking out (MGTOW), taking advantage (PUA), or fighting back (neomasculinist).

My suggestion is to fight back.

Standards

Is there nothing more annoying to modern women than having standards?  To the modern woman, a man who has any kind of standards in a person he wishes to date or marry is considered to be a pig.  Like all women are the same and really just interchangeable holes for men to have fun with.  That’s the logical implication of what they are saying.

So when a man expresses his interest in thin blonde women with blue eyes or a full-formed redhead with green eyes, he’s suddenly a pig.  But when a woman is sexually harassed by a Clooney lookalike, he is given a pass because he’s a hunk.

This is the true nature of female hypergamey as I understand it.  When the sexual marketplace is placed in women’s hands, they pine for the top 20% of guys, who are all too willing to bang their brains out, while ignoring men who are at their sexual marketplace value.

And as much as I would like for women to wake up and realize that they need to not chase after the Alphas, that’s an unrealistic fantasy.  So instead I recommend that men everywhere understand this and start to do things that will ensure their own happiness with women in the future.

For one thing, learn Game.  This will help understand women.  It may be repulsive to you.  It may seem dishonest.  But it perfectly illustrates how women think and what you need to do in order to secure a relationship with them.

Another thing is to get in shape.  Too many men are outlived by their wives.  A large consequence of this is probably due to poor health on a man’s part because he’s got his sexual contract.  But these days, you need to keep in shape in order to provide Dread Game (which is instilling the fear that you don’t need her) on a near constant basis.  A well-built muscular man in his 40s is more attractive than a flabby hipster in his 20s.

You should probably grow a beard.  This is a personal preference but a beard represents masculinity.  Men without beards are like children all grown up.  If you can’t grow a beard, don’t fret.  Like being too short or too tall, consider it a disability in Game that you need to overcome.

Finally, when starting a long term relationship of some kind, make sure you clarify what your expectations are from her on the first date or gathering.  If you don’t, she’ll define them for you and you’ll end up holding her goddamn purse while she bangs a NFL quarterback in the Mall restroom (not a true story as far as I know).

So have standards.  Having standards puts you in a leadership role and defines your destiny.  Don’t let women define them for you because it shows weakness in your leadership skills.

And weakness in leadership skills is largely why the divorce rate is so high these days.

Chasing the Virgin Unicorn

Rollo Tomassi, the author of the The Rational Male blog, posted an interesting piece last night.  He made an interesting observation:

There’s a wishful contingent of guys in the ‘sphere who think finding a young virgin bride before the world’s corrupted her pure soul is (or at least should be) a tenable goal. I understand the want and logic behind that, but even with a virgin bride there is no insulation from the sexual marketplace or the realities women experience as they mature.

This is an important point about the nature of Female Hypergamy.  Even if you managed to find a virgin and marry her in this modern age where the median sexual partners a woman has is about 3-4, she may still divorce you in the end.  This is because the nature of women when it comes to the sexual marketplace is, by and large, a universal law.

What Rollo fails to point out (or see, I’m not sure), is that virginal women are less likely to leave their husbands than women who have had one or previous sexual partners.  In a survey where women provided their sexual history and their martial status after ten years, women who were virgins were 82% likely to stick with their husbands.  When she had one previous partner, it dropped to about 53%.

The survey, however, is flawed.  It only covers the first ten years and Rollo has pointed out in the past that there are two points when a married couple re-evaluates their marriage: one at around 7 years and one at around 20 years.

The latter one is one I have witnessed happen three times among people within my own church.  It usually happens when the kids move out (or are going to college and thus effectively moved out), and the parents realize that they can’t relate to each other anymore for whatever reason.  In one case, I suspected sex stopped entirely courtesy of the wife as the husband immediately started dating other women once his youngest was gone.

So while the study I’ve mentioned is accurate to a degree, there still is a risk.

The manosphere seeks to mitigate the risk by marrying a virgin.  This is because virgins are considered LTR material in nearly all cultures throughout history until these modern times and because it has been widely known that virgins do tend to stick with husbands more so than not.

But Rollo is correct in that it does not prevent any woman from desiring what she has could have had.  This is why it is important to maintain the ALPHA frame in your marriage most of the time.  Sure, you need to go BETA sometimes, but not as often as people make it out.  Game still applies in marriage no matter what, especially in this day and age where women have the ability to fend for themselves much more easily than they have in the past.

So maintain your frame and understand that women will always be women.  There will just be varying degrees of who much of a Party Girl they are.  Understanding this and applying Game should ensure that she will come back to you.

Of course, there are guarantees in all of this.  She is her own person after all and at the end of the day, she may make a decision that breaks everything you have worked for.  But that’s part of life’s risks that men need to accept.

The White Knights March On

The white knights are up in full force for this weekend.  Are they defending precious girls against rapists?  Stopping players from getting their one-night stands?

No, they are complaining about the release of the movie Fifty Shades of Grey.

They are whining about how it depicts a man dominating and overpowering a young woman.  She is stalked and then taken into his world of BDSM.

Forgetting that during the course of the plot, she signs both a consent form and a non-disclosure agreement about it after spending some time to think about it all.  She was not coerced into anything.  She willing accepts and participates in his sexual exploits.

What many idiotic white knights fail to recognize is that many women want this.  They want to be dominated by men and they want to submit to them.  It is the curse that was pronounced on them by God through Eve after all.

I am sick of these whiny morons complaining about a romance movie with a BDSM theme.  So what?  If that is what certain girls want to see, let them watch it.

Hey guess what idiots: all women have a very slutty streak.  The trick is making your wife into your own personal slut rather than everyone else’s.

So stop bemoaning all the immoral things that men inflict on women.  This was something that women inflicted on themselves.

The only thing that men are guilty of in Western society these days is not telling Eve to put the apple down and beating the living Hell out of that damn Serpent.  Because our wives won’t let us.

Understanding MGTOW

Men who are going their own way (commonly known as MGTOW) are becoming more and more common even as many of the men doing so don’t realize it.  The core idea behind MGTOW is that men are simply checking out of society by not marrying, not working harder than they need to, and spending their time doing things for themselves.

The response of the Baby Boomers and the early Gen-X’ers has been a resounding “man-up” call to them.  In many cases, video games, pornography, and other hobbies are blamed on a man’s lost interest in doing what societies generally desire them to do.

Yet for all of this, I cannot help but wonder why these people do not even bother to question what it is they are doing or have done to make young men want to check out of society altogether.

In the first place, consider that divorce rates are anywhere between 30% to 50% depending on the study you look into.  Also consider that women who are not virgins when they get married are much more likely to divorce than women who are.  Finally, consider the toll that divorce takes on men like perpetual alimony (at the time of Robin Williams’ suicide, he was paying six figures to two ex-wives if I recall the facts correctly), child support, and just losing half of your stuff.

The risks for most men getting married are incredibly high right now.  Men love a good challenge, yes, but not one where the risk-reward ratio is next to nothing.  It would be one thing if a man was guaranteed sex, home-cooked meals, and pleasant company most of the time with his wife.  But these days many women are incapable of doing those simple things and instead desire to browbeat men using emotional and verbal abuse.  Effectively, the average maturity level of women is that of a ten year old girl.

So men would rather not sign a contract with a woman which is treated like a perpetual dating contract rather than a serious commitment backed by an oath made before God.  A wife’s love comes with conditions while a husband’s love is supposed to be a given.

On top of that, we have a stagnating or depressing economy right now.  Many younger men are not seeing prospects beyond the retail outlet jobs they picked up as a summer job while at school.  More and more these type of jobs are requiring college degrees of some kind, which means a man needs to be in debt to the government before he can be hired to be a cashier, flip burgers, or make coffee.

So with those bleak economic prospects, many men have little to offer women who are more attracted to wealth and status rather than looks.  Yes, women do appreciate a good looking man.  But slap a Starbucks apron on him and suddenly his attractiveness drops 5 points on the 10 point scale.

So men are checking out of the procreation game entirely.  For them, it simply isn’t worth the time, the trouble, and the risk involved.  Who wants to be married to someone and be unhappy?  Who wants to be married to someone who has a good chance of running off with half your shit and demanding payments to fund her pornographic lifestyle while his kids are left at home with no babysitter?  Who wants to get married with no guaranteed sex or comfort from his wife?

I’m not saying they are necessarily right to do so.  Hell, I’d say take risk and know that most men who get divorced ultimately end up better off than their ex-wives in the end so long as you fight her in the divorce proceedings.  And the economy is only as good as the number of productive people engaged in it.

But I understand them and their attitude.  I’m tempted sometimes to take my own route that would lead me to that lifestyle as well.  No, I will not abandon my family, but I do enjoy solitude from time to time.

But for our society to combat this growing trend, we need to understand that it is us who are driving men to this.  Porn and video games are the easier route right now as having sex with a real human being is much more desirable but produces way too many risks for men.

Selling Out Churches to Single Mothers

I was listening to a podcast from Bechtloff yesterday and he talked about something that I found extraordinary.  He discussed how the church does not properly deal with single motherhood and how he sees a greater problem with bastard children being raised by a mom than gays adopting.

This is a great example of the American church, that is the community of Christian believers in the United States of America, embracing single motherhood as a virtue rather than confronting it as a vice.  We have pastors across the nation teaching that women tame men.  That men need to “man-up” and marry these women no matter how damaged they are or used up they are.

That is the socio-sexual strategy of modern women, or at least the one that is encouraged by the elite and embraced by the church.  Have as much fun (i.e.. sex) as you can while you are in your 20s and then find a decent man to marry when you are older, less attractive, and possibly have a baby or two you need to take care of.

That’s a raw deal for any man if you ask me.  I know that the median partner count for women upon getting married is around four, but that is something that goes against nature.  Men naturally want to marry inexperienced women.  There’s no shame in that.  They naturally will pump and dump sluts.

This is a natural part of the male instinct to procreate.  I’m not saying that men should go and out and pump and dump as much as possible, but I am saying that we are better able to emotionally connect with a woman who has had no previous partners.  Especially younger men who are more likely to get married in the first place.

But these days women, at the behest of feminists, have declared that what was once considered normal is now considered to be oppressive and patriarchal.  Feminists themselves are a hate-filled lot who lack a sense of humor and have allowed envy to rule over their thought processes.  As such, they seek to destroy any expression of masculinity they can where ever they can because it is something they cannot do naturally.

Every boys club, every predominantly male activity must be infiltrated for the sake of the feminine, never mind that they destroy the feminine in the process.  This also applies to socio-sexual relations.

So we have an upside-down system of dating and marriage where men are given all the responsibilities but none of the benefits while women are given the benefits while avoiding the consequences.  If you want a real-world example of this (and didn’t bother to follow the link I provided above), look no further than reproductive rights.

Women have nearly every form of contraception available to them.  Besides condoms (which every single man must use during every sexual encounter, regardless of what she says she does), men have no real alternative.  Women have pills, meshes, and just about everything else you can think of to allow them to avoid pregnancy.

Yet single motherhood is on the rise.  Well, at least it has skyrocketed in the past several decades.  These days it is considered perfectly normal when in the past it was something to be ashamed of.

And churches are all too willing to clump such women into the same category as widows when widowhood is a condition that women cannot control where as single motherhood is something that can be controlled.  So the church has willingly embraced irresponsibility in order to curry favor with their largest group of donors (women attend more church than men).

Nationwide, the American church is for sale.  Their moral compass skews in favor of those who provide the most donations.  Any pastor willing to stand up against sluts and single mothers will find himself attacked by Team Women for oppressing them.  The wagons will circle and that pastor will either have to apologize or face excommunication from his own congregations.

And all for the simple crime of pointing out what the Bible says with regards to sexual immorality.

Is it any wonder why I’d rather not become a pastor?

Musings on Game, Women, Men, and Marriage

I’ve been watching and reading the manosphere for a while now.  For those of you who don’t know, the manosphere is, it is basically a group of men who are standing up to the cultural norms when it comes to male-female interaction.

Mostly it has taken the form of blogging.  Pretty much all major news outlets and even the alternative ones won’t give them the time of day.  And when they do, it tends to be biased.

Originally, the manosphere was a group of men mentoring each other in how to bed chicks with much less fuss.  It usually involved experienced Alphas discussing their own experiences in what works and what doesn’t.

It has grown from there.  Now there is a wide range of topics, which include pushing back against feminism, Social Justice, and various other social and cultural ills.  There are still the Pick-up Artists out there, but it goes well beyond that.

Anyway, one of the key features is the discussion of Alpha traits versus Beta traits.  Basically, Alpha traits are what women ultimately want in their men, many of which they would outright deny, while Beta traits are turn offs for women, which they claim they want.

For those of you who don’t know the difference, look at it as women being attracted to jerks while nice guys finish last.  It’s a basic difference, but it is all about behavior.

I didn’t discover all of this until after I was married.  I had already began exhibiting Alpha traits but was mostly Beta in my interactions with my wife.  I never put up with garbage with her.  If she accused me of something that wasn’t true, I wouldn’t apologize like a dog, but stand up for myself.  Yes, the confrontation was brutal, but being afraid of confrontation is what makes modern marriage female dominated and unbiblical.

While I cannot apply pick-up artist techniques against other women, I can still apply Alpha traits in my marriage.  It is about taking up the mantle of true male headship, something that is not earned but granted.  We are supposed to be the leaders in our marriages.

And women, by the nature of their curse, hate that.  Left to their own devices, they will seek to dominate their men for no other reason than their natural envy.

Relationships by their nature always have a dominant and submissive dynamic.  All of them.  You are either the leader or the follower.  If you have to question your role, then you are probably the follower, not the leader.

Asserting headship is what men need to do in this life.  Man-dominated society is not a bad thing.  It built great civilizations and maintained order among the rabble of sinners.  It wasn’t perfect nor was it a Utopia, but it was better than what the last several decades of female-centric governing have wrought in the West.

Yes, man has great capacity for insanity, stupidity, and destruction.  We are the more aggressive sex.  As a whole, we commit more crimes, more rapes, more murders, and more misery.  But we also build more, we discover more, we strive to be more than we are, and we dream bigger than most women.

This is not a hit against women.  Most women strive for much simpler things in their lives.  At the end of it all, most women regret not having more children, unlike most men who regret not doing more with their lives.  They have a natural desire to breed.

Our modern society has perverted that desire.  Instead, it demands the women first take additional education for careers that will not fulfill them or bring them happiness (it does not for most men).  It demands that women waste their best child-bearing and most attractive years on fling after fling of pointless dating and hook-ups.

The effect of this is that most men with Beta traits are left in the dust, only to receive a woman who has been used up.  She has debts, no virginity, and a mediocre career.  Only then will she come to a man to “save” her from the drudgery of her once fun life.

But he cannot satisfy her.  He cannot make her happy.  His purpose was never to make her happy, only secure.  And so she leaves him after a time because she doesn’t feel “fulfilled” in her marriage.

But divorce only leaves her worse off than before.  Having wasted her youth hooking up and spending the better part of her child-bearing years with a Beta, she is now used goods that not even the Alphas will fuck.

This is not always the case.  But it is a general synopsis of what goes on in modern America.  Sure the stories are always different.  In some cases, the husband cheats on her, only after she intentionally withheld sex from him and thrust him into a dangerous situation.  In other cases, she blames the numerous debts they’ve racked, largely at her behest, although not always the case.

These are just examples though.  I am sure that most stories have their own uniqueness to them.  But at the end of the day, it is most women who initiate divorces, not men.

So now men have to go super Alpha if they want to remain attractive to women.  Where as in the past, a Beta could secure a wife and have a relatively happy life (and she would be happy as well), these days women are miserable and remain so unless a man steps and demands what should be his by default.

For my fellow Christian men who scoff as these notions, keep in mind that the Apostles wrote about this.  Both Peter and Paul demanded that wives be submissive to their husbands in separate letters.  They would not have taken the time to do so if they did not think it was a problem for most men, even back then.

Yes, they did instruct husbands to love their wives, but understand that modern man has no trouble loving his wife.  But everywhere I look, wives have trouble submitting to their husbands.  And while I could blame our society or feminism or Social Justice on this, I think it really just comes down too many men being too humble before their wives.

Being humble is a good thing when you have direct access to God, like Moses did.  But it doesn’t work out too well when dealing with disobedient brothers and sisters in Christ.  Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loves His Church.  Rebuke them as needed as Christ rebuked Peter when Peter tried to prevent our Lord from obeying God.  Remember, love is an action.  It is not a feeling.

Wives should submit to their husbands, no matter how he is behaving.  If he is being a pig and sitting around doing nothing to contribute to the house, submit to him.  If he is committing adultery, submit to him, no matter how much it hurts.  If he is demanding sex, submit to him.  Only if he demands that you break your oath to him in marriage should you not submit to him because it was an oath you made before God.  If you are uncertain as to whether or not you are breaking your oath, then you are not.  Marital vows are quite clear on these matters.

I don’t have a perfect marriage.  It has had its hardships despite my best efforts.  My wife is a wild woman who is troublesome at times.  But I swore an oath before God and my obedience to God is more important than personal happiness.  So while I have had bad times, especially of late, I will continue forward.

It isn’t a matter of time really, just a matter of prayer and the hope that the Lord would open her eyes to see His Truth in these matters.  She has already considered divorce many times but each time she knows that she would be worse off leaving than staying.  And that’s a start, a turning point.  Most women would have simply left.

Should I do things differently?  Perhaps.  But I refuse to change who I am when I like who I am.  So I will have to adjust my behavior toward her.  But I will not become something I don’t like for her sake.

And maybe that is why I have trouble with Game.  Perhaps it’s the idea of having to change yourself for the sake of women you really would give two shits about at the end of the day.  Isn’t that the paradox in Game?  The idea of changing yourself for women so that you don’t care about women?

As for myself, I don’t care about a lot of that as much.  Maybe I drew the short straw when it comes to marriage, but it is my straw that I drew.  It is where I am right now and I will not destroy for the sake of potentially more happiness.  Such things are hedonistic at their core.

I think Christian men should do well to remember this.  You need to be the dominant person in your marriage.  This does not mean dominating per se, but it does mean being the leader.  And wives need to submit to their husbands no matter how many times he does that thing you hate.

This is the path that has been laid out before us by God.  Embrace it and you may find contentment and purpose.  Deny it and you will definitely find unhappiness and misery.

The Disney Princess Movies Were For Boys, Not Girls

I wonder if all those older Disney movies like Sleeping Beauty and Beauty and the Beast were not for little girls, but for little boys.  While it is true that most of Disney’s output has been targeting girls of late, it seems to me that this has not always been the case.  The phenomenon of the “Disney Princess” is something that appeared within the last decade or so when Disney saw a opportunity.

Think about those older animated movies.  In many of them, the male protagonist is usually thrown in at the end or a side show compared to the princess, who is usually the central character.  This is not to denigrate the male character or Disney’s portrayal of him, but to highlight that the central character is usually the “princess.”

The “princess” is usually portrayed as virtuous and without fault.  She is perfect in her own way and as such, no character growth is required of her.  This would make for a boring movie, so in place of portraying a flawed individual overcome her own personal demons, she instead falls victim to (or fights against) external evils.  In many cases, she is a victim of curses or evil forces beyond her control.

Contrast that to the male characters who are almost always portrayed as flawed or, in some cases, the cause of the misfortune that falls on the “princess”.  In Beauty and the Beast, for example, the “Beast” is cursed because he is selfish and nasty.  It is only through Belle that he is made into a “proper” man.

This theme is common in many fairy tale-like stories, not necessarily limited to Disney.  We often see the woman, being pure and virtuous, fixing the man who is flawed and selfish.  This is pretty much the basis of most romance movies.  The woman fixes the man.  But I digress.

My point is that these movies are designed, I think, to target little boys and make them think that girls are pure and virtuous and are the ones who can save them from their evil tendencies.  As of late, this trend has pretty much been abandoned as seen in Frozen, though.  But at the same time, we now have a generation that has grown up watching Belle tame the Beast, Aladdin fighting for a rebellious princess instead of stealing for a living, and Simba reasserting the circle of life for the sake of his estranged girlfriend.

The common theme is “Men bad, women good”.  This would all be fine if it were true.  But the truth is, women are among the most deceptive and manipulative creatures on the planet.  They have to be because they are not physically stronger than men and are oftentimes intellectually inferior (not necessarily stupider, just not interested really).  So they have to find ways to survive and will use any tool at their disposal to get what they want.

Yes, even the virtuous ones may fake an orgasm from time to time in order to get the job done and keep her man happy.  And a happy man means he will continue to give her his resources that he earns through his work.

There is nothing wrong with this really.  Being shrewd is a virtue, as Jesus Himself stated, and women certainly are better at it than men are.  I think what many in the so-called manosphere really encourage is for men to be wiser and shrewder than women, which is why most women naturally resent it.

So for all of you young men who were exposed to all those Disney movies growing I say this: they are nothing but lies and misconceptions when it comes to how women really are.  Women are, like men, flawed and selfish individuals in their own right.  They just go about it in a much different way than men do.

I remember hearing about how literature and entertainment oftentimes portrays women in a dual light: either as wretches or as angels.  There is very little in-between. And it often happens in cycles, where at some points in time, they are devils, where as at other points in time, they are angels.

Perhaps it is high time that we portray women for who they really are.  Then again, it might be a bad marketing move since most entertainment is consumed by women, not men.  This would certainly explain why Disney movies get it wrong so much: they have to go through the mommy filter first.

Pointless Outrage

I watched the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer today.  I wasn’t impressed by it, although seeing as how it was based originally on a fan-fiction of Twilight, this isn’t a big shocker for me.  There were some things that stood out though, based on the trailer.

For one thing, the male lead appears to be much more Alpha than a blood-sucking vampire.  I don’t know how that plays out in the movie, but he’s much more confident in his approach to women.  The trailer makes that obvious as he approaches a plain Jane female lead.  And let’s be honest: any man who is able to not only take a young woman’s virginity but also introduce her to BSDM shortly afterward is at the top of his game.

I’ve read a lot criticism about this movie.  Both come from the Left and the Right side as well.  The Feminist Left cannot stand the portrayal of an Alpha man’s interactions with a woman, unless she is stronger than him and takes him down a notch or two.  The movie does not do this.  It portrays an Alpha man take on a dominant role and places his love interest in a submissive one.  For a feminist, this is the ultimate insult.

The Christian Right, on the other hand, criticizes the portrayal of fornication and bondage sex in general.  The trouble is, pornography is, unfortunately, mainstream these days.  What was once a magazine under your bed or something only seen in a grindhouse theater is now in major productions everywhere.  The thing is, if I wanted to see bondage sex scenes, I wouldn’t have to pay for it.

The book upon which the movie is based on appears to be similar in plot to Twilight, actually except with much dirtier elements.  Basically, a handsome bad boy is tamed by a plain virginal girl.  This is the ultimate female fantasy.  That she was the one who lassoed the wild horse and got him to submit to her.

This is largely why many women go for the guy who is on the higher tier to the detriment of the lower men.  They see the handsome player and think that they can be the one who gets him to settle down.  The one who will use all of his charm, passion, and sexual energy on her.  That he will sacrifice everything for her, even his own life in need be.

It’s the classic knight rescues princess fairy tale theme that we are told about when we are children.  The brave, strong knight rescues the princess and marries her, settling down, and sacrificing the warrior’s life.

The tragedy in this is that most men of that caliber will not do this.  Once they get bored with the women they sleep with, they usually ditch them.  If any of these women get out of line in any way, you can bet they are gone too.  Dominant men do not tolerate dissent and are willing to do anything to ensure it and, failing that, do anything to remove the toxic women from their lives.

I don’t know how well the movie will do in the box office when it is released.  I don’t know why it takes so long to make a movie with such a basic plot.  I really don’t care.  I’m not interested in romance dramas.  Hell, I can barely tolerate romantic comedies when my wife and I occasionally watch them (though not so much anymore really).

But the outrage over the movie is laughable.  Folks, there are plenty of reasons to be outraged in this world.  A movie depicting bondage sex acts is not one of them.

Documenting the Excuses

So by now a lot of people have seen the following spreadsheet on the Internet:

It was posted by an anonymous career woman who received this e-mail from her husband while traveling on a 10-day business trip.  He basically said this is why I won’t miss you over the next 10 days.

Now, there has been a lot of observations made over the manosphere and various other outlets.  Comments ranging from full support of the wife’s disobedience to full support of the husband’s plight.

I’d like to make a couple of observations of my own regarding this:

• In our current society, women are the gatekeepers of sex.  It should not be this way, especially when she pledges her life to a man in a sacred ceremony until death (or unhappiness) do them part.  The whole idea of marriage is that a couple engage in a monogamous relationship where consent is implied and sex is a regular activity.  The whole point of marriage for a man is to have regular sex with one person they find attractive.  Without regular sex, you become a roommate who shares a bed.
• The spreadsheet was nearly two months in the making.  This indicates careful forethought and frustration in the months before it was started.  This means that she has been doing this to her husband for the majority of their marriage.  Not a good sign for their marriage.
• If the intention of the spreadsheet was to shame her into having more sex, it will not work that way.  While it will put her on the defensive, she will only rationalize it into his problem, not hers.  That is generally what women do when it comes to sex: they rationalize their lack of fidelity into the man’s fault.  Despite that, the husband should not accept any kind of blame from her.  None of this is his fault exactly.
• Given the nature of the comments she made, it is quite clear that the wife is not physically attracted to her husband anymore.  I don’t know why this is, but that is the case.  Now, there are things he can do to make himself more attractive to her, but most of these things take time (going to the gym, cutting carbs, etc.) to have an effect.  The most immediate thing he can do is to change his attitude about how he relates to her.  Think back to what you did when you first started dating her.  That needs to apply here.
• The wife is probably cheating on her husband on a regular basis.  The lack of sex is not the only reason why either.  She is working at a job where she goes on business trips that last for days.  She probably makes more money that her husband as well.  All of these things are a recipe for disgust and she will look for better opportunities in her sex life.  This is why I don’t believe that most wives should be allowed to have a career in my opinion because it brings about temptation to look for something better than their current husband.

I know that neither the anonymous wife or husband will probably ever read this blog post, given the number of blog posts already done for this spreadsheet along with the various online articles from much more popular sites.  But this is a problem for many men in their marriages and it is an unfortunate state of affairs today.  In marriage 2.0, the wife is the one who calls the shots and only a sufficiently Alpha personality type can successfully change the dynamic.

I don’t recommend making a spreadsheet.  I recommend doing what you would do if you were single: get in shape, lose weight, start studying how to make your personality more attractive to women, etc.  This may not work to attract your own wife and if that is the case, you’ll at least be equipped for if she decides to end things.  If you are married and do not have children and you find yourself in this situation, then you need to ensure that you don’t have children in the event of the divorce.

And if you end up divorcing, fight her every step of the way, especially if she makes more than you.  Fight for alimony from her, make her life a living hell, and flip the tables on her by living well while you are separated.  Ex-wives hate it when their ex-husbands show up to the hearings with a smile on their face and scowl on his lawyer’s face.

I do hope that this couple does not separate or divorce.  This young woman is wasting her prime sexual years by not indulging her husband whose own libido will diminish over time as well.  She is in her mid-20s, apparently, and it is downhill from there in terms of looks and attractiveness.  Marriage has shown to provide a reliable sexual partner who remains attracted to his or her spouse even as said spouse’s looks deteriorate due to age.  My advice is, as always, to stay married.  But I would understand if they end up divorcing.

Man Trappers

Women are devious creatures.  They are not physically, mentally, or emotionally superior to men.  But they know how to lie and cheat better than the average man:

Used positive pregnancy tests can be found for sale all over the Internet.

And as CBS 2’s Alice Gainer reported, those involved said people are snapping them up – with less-than-ethical motivations.

One mother from Dallas did not want her identity revealed, but she does want people to buy her positive pregnancy tests. She talked about one woman who took her up on the offer.

“She wanted to trick him into thinking she was pregnant, so he would drop everything so I gave her two tests,” the woman said.

Buying and selling others’ pregnancy tests is the latest trend on the Internet. Those involved in the trade said the buyers’ motive is often to trap a man – and that is not all.

“Ninety-five percent of the girls just want to lie to get a man,” the seller said.

And the sellers know that.

This is not something that should come as a surprise to anyone really.  Given that our society has long abandoned proper martial practices in favor of hooking up, when it comes time to actually settle down before you grow old and unmarriageable, you have to do something.

The more cunning and beautiful women will realize this before they hit the Wall, which is when they lose their youthful beauty completely.  They will stop sleeping around and settle for a provider rather than the loser with a band and a dirty apartment.

For the less cunning, they require more deceptive measures.  Hence we have the fake pregnancy tests on top of all other forms of fraud that women engage in to get married.

Honestly, this is the logical result of a sexual marketplace where women want to sleep around without consequence and then get married.  Never mind that it has been proven that the more sexual partners a woman has before marriage results in a higher likelihood of divorce.  Somehow, every woman thinks they can beat their biological systems.

The point is, we should not be surprised at the depths of a woman’s deception when it comes to marriage.  Instead, we should surprised when a woman turns out to be a virgin at her wedding.

Support Your Rebellious Wife

Dalrock highlighted an interesting post on Yahoo answers today:

We have been to counseling and he stopped going. He refuses to go back. He has an attitude most of the time. He complains and talks about me behind my back. He says things to me like what's his is his and I don't have anything he has the job. I take care of the kids, and later says he's kidding. I'm not on the bank account. He only talks to his family and friends on the phone when I'm not around. He never wants to go out with me. When I make plans with friends they always get ruined. Because he can't watch the kids. Twice this year already on my birthday and on Sunday. We never do anything I want to do. If I bring anything up, he blows me off. When I try talking to him his response is, whatever! His sister takes screen shots from my fb wall and text them to him, and they talk about me. He looks at girls in front of me, than claim he doesn't know he's doing it. He smiled and winked at our female realtor. Claims he didn't know he did. Advice? I'm now beyond that breaking point.

Some women are bitches.  The Internet seems to indicate that there are more of them than there are emotionally stable ones.  Given the overall insanity of her posts, I would argue that her problems with her husband stem entirely from her inability to control him.

Remember, women are cursed with being dominated by men but desiring to rule over them.  In this case, she is being dominated by him to a degree, but she is unhappy with her current station in life.  She gives zero context to many of the events described, which makes it hard to tell whether she is spotting nonsense or telling the truth.

The sad part is, most of the comments encourage her to divorce him.  Only Dalrock himself writes a lengthy comment highlighting the consequences of divorcing him.

But the general consensus among people is that so long as the wife isn’t happy, then she should divorce him.  That is what it comes down to.

This woman is a rebellious wife, pure and simple.  For all we know, her husband does what he does because he needs to keep her more negative flaws in check.  He may be a controlling man, but why does she want access to the bank account, other than to make large purchases that he wouldn’t approve of.  I can tell you that when my wife did that, I made her take the stuff back.  On a side note, my wife does have access to our bank account, but I believe that every situation is different.

I was disgusted with this post and I really do believe that there is a lot more to this story than meets the eye.  Meanwhile, there are a slew of anonymous commentators, some claiming to be therapists themselves, willing to let her destroy her family in order to fulfill her own selfish desires.

This country will not get better until we undo this kind of thinking.  And while there is a backlash in the form of the manosphere, among other things, I do not see it happening anytime soon.

Sexism and Reality

Yesterday, I was accused of making a sexist statement from my father.  He’s a conservative Republican, so for him to engage in liberal-speak was a bit off-putting.

What was my statement?  While an online dating commercial was playing that featured women who were looking for men online, I stated that maybe they should ask themselves why they had to turn to online dating in the first place.  In other words, what have they done with themselves that made them unattractive to non-digital prospects.

If the gender roles were reversed, then I would not be accused of making a sexist statement.  Hell, I’d be considered a great philosopher for calling men out for their whining.

It’s a different standard I guess.  But seriously, if a woman is in her early 30s or older and is going to an online dating site, it makes me question her value as a woman worth marrying.

The best time to date a woman is in her 20s or very late teens (like 18 or 19).  It is when her beauty and youth are at its prime and it is when she is most likely to be a virgin.  Men want inexperienced women to marry.  They only bang sluts, but they will not marry them unless coerced into doing so.

Is it sexist?  Perhaps, but I never cared for such labels as they have been thrown around so much, it literally means nothing these days.  It could mean that I simply won’t give my wife more money.  Or it could mean that I don’t support scrambling the brains of the unborn.  Or that I simply do not agree with the feminist agenda, which is anti-men and in many ways, anti-female.

The fact is, the feminist agenda has radically altered our cultural landscape in the past several decades.  In truth, women had all the legal rights they needed by the time of the passage of the 19th amendment.  They could own property and vote.  There was literally no other legal rights they needed.

Instead, the modern feminist movement focused on murder and labor force, the latter of which was promoted by corporate elites who wanted more production from the middle class.  Knowing that they couldn’t legally impose their agenda, as even most women opposed them, they went about changing the culture.

And so we end up with conservative men telling other men they are sexist for questioning whether a woman should ask herself what she needs to do in order to be more attractive.

This is the state of the culture these days where men are told all the time to change.  We are told that we are too extreme, too reckless, and our desires to have sex are evil.  Meanwhile we forgive women who have sex out of wedlock, get pregnant, and go on the government dole.  We tell our men to “Man Up” and marry such women, who will always long for the Alpha male who got her pregnant in the first place.  Even Beta males don’t want to be the second or third place man in the life of their wives.

So now we see a rash of men who refuse to marry or even engage in long-term committed dating.  And everything from porn to video games is blamed.  But no one places blame on the women for being unattractive harpies or for making stupid, irrational decisions when they are younger.

What it comes to is a lack of shaming women.  We don’t shame women for losing their virginity so carelessly to a boy or a man they have no desire to marry.  We don’t shame women for having children out of wedlock.

Well, scratch that last thought.  We do shame women for wanting to be a stay at home mother or for not going to college or for not pursuing a career.

And yet, our experts are constantly scratching their heads wondering why women are having children later on in life when they are going to have more problems with child-bearing.  And we don’t try to segregate colleges by gender when told that 1 in 4 women are raped in college.

I know that figure is a farce, just turn the logic around on them.  If women are 25% likely to be raped in college, then maybe the solution is that women shouldn’t go to college.  If men are truly the sex fiends that feminists make us out to be, then what is the reason for encouraging women to go to an institution filled with testosterone-fueled boys who are just experiencing freedom from parental rule for the first time?

If women are more likely to divorce if they have more than 2 previous sexual partners, then why should a man roll the dice and marry a slut?  The truth is, she may never desire him as much as she desires her previous flings because marriage is, by and large, a boring relationship.  Quick flings are scary and spontaneous and thrilling.  A husband cannot compete with that, especially as the relationship moves forward.  It gets worse if she was dirty, filthy slut in the past and fucks like a prude in the current relationship.

In truth, all of these things will probably be seen as sexist.  And yet, I know that these are the fundamental truths of the relationships between men and women.  Our culture has encouraged little girls to be  princesses while telling the potential dragon-slaying knights to stop fighting and calm down.  And it only gets worse from there as they get older.

Then and Now

Then:

and now:

And none of those women will ever be on a man’s marry or bang list.

Marriage, Love, Sex, and Video Tape

I read a tragic story of a man who found out about his wife’s past sexual history.  Now, I am not going to share it here, just follow the link and read it.

But in case you don’t, I’ll sum it up quickly.  Basically, this man has been married for seven years, has a two-year-old daughter, but the sex with his wife has left him wanting.  And then he found a video tape in the attic of his wife, pre-marriage, having an orgy with several men and a woman.

But that didn’t upset him.  Finding his wife’s crazy sexual history on display didn’t get him angry.  What got him angry is the realization that his wife does not love him.  This is because, as he states, “I am so fucking lucky.  I got married to a whore, that fucks like a prude.”

I don’t know what has happened to him since his posting.  I wish I could find out more about his story, mostly because his story is probably one that has played out in the United States in multiple families.  A woman is encouraged to go out and be independent.  Be confident.  And bag as many cocks as she can.

Then she is encouraged to settle down.  To settle for a BETA provider rather than an ALPHA.  In the patriarchy, ALPHAs were forced to settle down and marry as that was what was expected of them.  But feminism has liberated the ALPHAs to engage in sexual exploits that make age-old legends such as Casanova look tame by comparison.

And so the ALPHAs and the women are liberated to do things that make porn stars blush and the BETAs are left with used up women who secretly hold their husbands in contempt.

There is a way to turn this around.  Unfortunately it means that every man has to become ALPHA, married or not.  The problem with this solution is that being ALPHA is a lot of work for someone who isn’t used to it and it can be incredibly draining, especially if you are a introvert.

The best thing we can do for our daughters is to encourage them to cherish their virginity.  Barring that, I think that a return to polygyny is in order since problems like this are minor annoyances when you have a small harem.  Think King David in his response to Michal’s disrespect.

Women need to understand that we want, as Rollo puts, our wives to be our sluts.  The man in I refer to didn’t mind that his wife had a colorful sexual past.  Just that she refused to share it exclusively with him while he was married to her.

Husbands don’t ask for much from their wives.  We have simple needs and we have simple desires.  Wives would do well to meet those needs.