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Friday, July 25, 2014

Pointless Outrage

I watched the Fifty Shades of Grey trailer today.  I wasn’t impressed by it, although seeing as how it was based originally on a fan-fiction of Twilight, this isn’t a big shocker for me.  There were some things that stood out though, based on the trailer.

For one thing, the male lead appears to be much more Alpha than a blood-sucking vampire.  I don’t know how that plays out in the movie, but he’s much more confident in his approach to women.  The trailer makes that obvious as he approaches a plain Jane female lead.  And let’s be honest: any man who is able to not only take a young woman’s virginity but also introduce her to BSDM shortly afterward is at the top of his game.

I’ve read a lot criticism about this movie.  Both come from the Left and the Right side as well.  The Feminist Left cannot stand the portrayal of an Alpha man’s interactions with a woman, unless she is stronger than him and takes him down a notch or two.  The movie does not do this.  It portrays an Alpha man take on a dominant role and places his love interest in a submissive one.  For a feminist, this is the ultimate insult.

The Christian Right, on the other hand, criticizes the portrayal of fornication and bondage sex in general.  The trouble is, pornography is, unfortunately, mainstream these days.  What was once a magazine under your bed or something only seen in a grindhouse theater is now in major productions everywhere.  The thing is, if I wanted to see bondage sex scenes, I wouldn’t have to pay for it.

The book upon which the movie is based on appears to be similar in plot to Twilight, actually except with much dirtier elements.  Basically, a handsome bad boy is tamed by a plain virginal girl.  This is the ultimate female fantasy.  That she was the one who lassoed the wild horse and got him to submit to her.

This is largely why many women go for the guy who is on the higher tier to the detriment of the lower men.  They see the handsome player and think that they can be the one who gets him to settle down.  The one who will use all of his charm, passion, and sexual energy on her.  That he will sacrifice everything for her, even his own life in need be.

It’s the classic knight rescues princess fairy tale theme that we are told about when we are children.  The brave, strong knight rescues the princess and marries her, settling down, and sacrificing the warrior’s life.

The tragedy in this is that most men of that caliber will not do this.  Once they get bored with the women they sleep with, they usually ditch them.  If any of these women get out of line in any way, you can bet they are gone too.  Dominant men do not tolerate dissent and are willing to do anything to ensure it and, failing that, do anything to remove the toxic women from their lives.

I don’t know how well the movie will do in the box office when it is released.  I don’t know why it takes so long to make a movie with such a basic plot.  I really don’t care.  I’m not interested in romance dramas.  Hell, I can barely tolerate romantic comedies when my wife and I occasionally watch them (though not so much anymore really).

But the outrage over the movie is laughable.  Folks, there are plenty of reasons to be outraged in this world.  A movie depicting bondage sex acts is not one of them.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Hollywood Cesspool

Only in Hollywood is an actor condemned for not wanting to do gay scenes:

When Luke Grimes started on HBO’s “True Blood” last season his character James Kent was wooing a female vampire. But Grimes reportedly quit in December when he found out Kent was bisexual and starting a romantic relationship with a gay character in the seventh and final season.

Yet critics argue that Grimes should have known what he was getting into when he initially signed the dotted line, given that the supernatural drama – created by the openly gay Alan Ball and produced by his company in conjunction with HBO – routinely pushes the envelope when it comes to relationships.

“It’s unfortunate that an actor today would feel uncomfortable playing gay, especially on a program that has always put LGBT characters front and center,” Stacy Lambe, Associate Editor for the gay and lesbian-focused OUT Magazine said. “But Nelsan Ellis and Nathan Parsons are proof that Luke Grimes is not the norm. Grimes is the exception.”

All of this is bullshit of course.  Luke Grimes has every right to refuse to anything he is uncomfortable with doing.

This same courtesy would be extended to all actresses.  If an actress refuses to do a nude scene, she gets to refuse no questions asked.  There might be some pressure, but at the end of the day, nobody really blames her.

This is just another stab at morality by Hollywood, who views morality as subjective and contingent on happiness rather than acknowledging a true moral standard.  It is no wonder that there are probably dozens of pedophiles there preying on child actors (Corey Feldman anyone).

Speculations aside, this is the kind of thing that will only serve to further alienate Hollywood.  As they continue to try and push sexually deviant behavior (which less than 3% of Americans regularly engage in) down the throats of Americans, the less they will consume.

Hollywood is a cesspool, now more than ever.  It is time to start looking elsewhere for entertainment.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Good Marriages Are Good For Civilization

I got a message on my private Facebook account from my father about how my posts were (yet again) angry and judgmental.  He was talking about my sharing of the sexuses spreadsheet.

He was mainly worried about how I was focusing on divorce, marriage, sex, and the role of women.  He was wondering what my obsession was and why I kept on sharing those things.  Truth be told, I am a bit obsessed with it for now.  But my obsession, I think, is the key to preserving what is left of our collapsing civilization.

Civilization depends on having children, especially children of the dominant people group who founded said civilization.  For the United States, the dominant group was Western Europeans.  That demographic is rapidly changing now as we see the birthrates of European-descended Americans on the decline in most areas of the country.

What does this have to do with marriage?   Well, the answer is quite simple: married couples create babies.  Healthy marriages usually result in more children than unhealthy ones as well.  In order to have a growing civilization, married couples need to have, on average, about three children.  Having only two children results in replacing the existing parents.  And having one signifies a decline.  So in order to have a growing civilization, parents should strive for at least three children each and more is preferred.

Unfortunately, marriage in the United States is a damaged institution.  It has gotten so bad, that many men are opting out of it entirely and just living their own lives.  In other cases, men suffer through a sexless (loveless) marriage with a woman who doesn’t understand why he doesn’t bring her flowers anymore.  In still other cases, a marriage ends in divorce.

Divorce is detrimental to child production.  The couple splits up and therefore ends up having to literally start over in the dating world.  The process of dating leading to marriage and then children can take up years at a time and most people don’t have that kind of time.  And so we end up with divorced couples with only one or two children at best, which doesn’t really grow civilization.

The progressive Left has done its best to instill in American women that having children in a monogamous relationship is evil.  And they’ve made several converts, even causing churches to compromise with them.  They believe that having children does not bring joy or happiness in one’s life.  In truth, they are wicked and ugly and only wish to tear down the joy and love of everyone else.  Hence, their proud declarations of 50 million abortions since Roe v. Wade.

A population that does not breed is not one that will remain around for much longer.  We live in a country with vast wealth and comfort.  There is no reason that we shouldn’t be able to have as many children as we desire.  And yet, those options are increasingly limited to us.

I am not saying that having children is easy.  I have one son (so far) and he is already a handful.  But I want to have more every time I view pictures of his infant years, despite the exhausting nature of being a father (and the hard part for me has yet to come).

I am also not saying that we should pass laws to fix all of this.  Civilization rises and falls based on the attitudes of the society who built it, not on its governing body.  The mere fact that the government is pushing anti-civilization laws and policies is merely a reflection of how much our society despise civilization.  Or rather, the responsibilities inherent in maintaining a civilization.

Focusing on strengthening marriage by getting husbands in a leadership role in their own family while getting their wives into a helper position is a step in the right direction.  In just 40 decades of female-centered leadership in marriage, we have seen divorce rates go up and a general sense of unease or unhappiness when it comes to marriage.  Now perhaps I’m not being fair to women, but doesn’t it seem that once men handed their headship over to their wives, things got worse, not better?

Look, no marriage will ever be perfect.  No one marriage will have the right amount of children or the right level of happiness.  But with more men in charge of their marriages and their wives in a more supportive role, we might see things get better all around.

And just remember that most married couples who have had less than three children regret not having more.  And also know that those married couples who consider divorce not an option are often in a happier relationship.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Documenting the Excuses

So by now a lot of people have seen the following spreadsheet on the Internet:

It was posted by an anonymous career woman who received this e-mail from her husband while traveling on a 10-day business trip.  He basically said this is why I won’t miss you over the next 10 days.

Now, there has been a lot of observations made over the manosphere and various other outlets.  Comments ranging from full support of the wife’s disobedience to full support of the husband’s plight.

I’d like to make a couple of observations of my own regarding this:

  • In our current society, women are the gatekeepers of sex.  It should not be this way, especially when she pledges her life to a man in a sacred ceremony until death (or unhappiness) do them part.  The whole idea of marriage is that a couple engage in a monogamous relationship where consent is implied and sex is a regular activity.  The whole point of marriage for a man is to have regular sex with one person they find attractive.  Without regular sex, you become a roommate who shares a bed.
  • The spreadsheet was nearly two months in the making.  This indicates careful forethought and frustration in the months before it was started.  This means that she has been doing this to her husband for the majority of their marriage.  Not a good sign for their marriage.
  • If the intention of the spreadsheet was to shame her into having more sex, it will not work that way.  While it will put her on the defensive, she will only rationalize it into his problem, not hers.  That is generally what women do when it comes to sex: they rationalize their lack of fidelity into the man’s fault.  Despite that, the husband should not accept any kind of blame from her.  None of this is his fault exactly.
  • Given the nature of the comments she made, it is quite clear that the wife is not physically attracted to her husband anymore.  I don’t know why this is, but that is the case.  Now, there are things he can do to make himself more attractive to her, but most of these things take time (going to the gym, cutting carbs, etc.) to have an effect.  The most immediate thing he can do is to change his attitude about how he relates to her.  Think back to what you did when you first started dating her.  That needs to apply here.
  • The wife is probably cheating on her husband on a regular basis.  The lack of sex is not the only reason why either.  She is working at a job where she goes on business trips that last for days.  She probably makes more money that her husband as well.  All of these things are a recipe for disgust and she will look for better opportunities in her sex life.  This is why I don’t believe that most wives should be allowed to have a career in my opinion because it brings about temptation to look for something better than their current husband.

I know that neither the anonymous wife or husband will probably ever read this blog post, given the number of blog posts already done for this spreadsheet along with the various online articles from much more popular sites.  But this is a problem for many men in their marriages and it is an unfortunate state of affairs today.  In marriage 2.0, the wife is the one who calls the shots and only a sufficiently Alpha personality type can successfully change the dynamic.

I don’t recommend making a spreadsheet.  I recommend doing what you would do if you were single: get in shape, lose weight, start studying how to make your personality more attractive to women, etc.  This may not work to attract your own wife and if that is the case, you’ll at least be equipped for if she decides to end things.  If you are married and do not have children and you find yourself in this situation, then you need to ensure that you don’t have children in the event of the divorce.

And if you end up divorcing, fight her every step of the way, especially if she makes more than you.  Fight for alimony from her, make her life a living hell, and flip the tables on her by living well while you are separated.  Ex-wives hate it when their ex-husbands show up to the hearings with a smile on their face and scowl on his lawyer’s face.

I do hope that this couple does not separate or divorce.  This young woman is wasting her prime sexual years by not indulging her husband whose own libido will diminish over time as well.  She is in her mid-20s, apparently, and it is downhill from there in terms of looks and attractiveness.  Marriage has shown to provide a reliable sexual partner who remains attracted to his or her spouse even as said spouse’s looks deteriorate due to age.  My advice is, as always, to stay married.  But I would understand if they end up divorcing.