Monday, September 14, 2009

Surprise! Bullying Laws Do Not Work

Well, it seems that despite their best efforts, the Statist have been unable to stop children from bullying other children in their indoctrination camps.  Apparently, no matter how strict the laws are, it does not matter as your child will be bullied in government skools (as well as private schools, even the good Christian ones).

As someone who was bullied a lot by a bunch of idiots who have pretty much ruined their lives now (last I heard, they had bastard kids and no real career prospects), I can say that no matter what you do, there are always apathetic or delusional parents who have bullies for children.  And no, the bullying is never the result of some social ill, like their father beats them.  In fact, it is probably the exact opposite where their parents could not be more loving and yet fail to provide the one crucial aspect that is required of all parents: discipline.

You see, most of the bullies I have encountered in my life were kids whose parents lacked a father who was willing to deliver severe punishment.  I am talking about the kind of discipline where the child faces the consequences of his or her bad behavior.  Spanking is probably the only physical discipline and it does not work on older children as it is not about the actual pain (or lack thereof), but about the idea of pain.  For younger children, the idea of even the slightest amount of pain is often more horrifying than the actual pain felt.

What I am talking about is making your children apologize when they have wronged someone or working to pay back the person whose property they have damaged.  Most parents of bullies do not do this at all.  They do not place the fear of father in their children and so the child has no sense of true right and wrong, only an idea that seems whimsical.

As someone who dealt with severe alienation, bullying, and just downright nastiness in government skools because of the actions and attitudes of my fellow sociopaths, I have one recommendation for your children if you are being bullied: homeschool.  While it is not a perfect solution, as there are bullies in other things like Boy Scouts, larger Church groups, and sports teams, it will guarantee that your child will not be bullied everyday, as these activities do not occur everyday.  In fact, it will not interfere with their learning.

In addition to homeschooling, you can also ensure that your child is prepared to deal with bullies the right way: walk away.  Let them know that if they just simply ignore them, most of the time they will back down because you are no longer interesting.  If they attack your child, then you can have assault charges filed against the child and publically shame the parents in the process.  It does not matter if the charges stick or not, what matters is that the little sociopath’s parents are exposed as bad parents to the rest of their neighborhood.  Civil litigation can work in your favor as well, but I rarely recommend it unless the little sociopath keeps it up and the parents do not have a clue.

I have heard that cyberbullying, where the child is bullied through the social networking sites, is on the rise as well.  I can definitely see this and I encourage parents to install Internet filters and monitor programs.  Not only should you be monitoring what your child is doing there, but you can also identify the cyberbullies and address the issue accordingly.

I would recommend talking with parents, but once is enough.  Let them know that such behavior will not be tolerated again and that future cases will result in severe penalties.  Usually, if they do not get it the first time, there is no point in making yourself clear the next few times.

Ultimately though, it is the state governments who are powerless to stop it.  There is no way to stop bullying in government skools or anywhere else and no matter what laws you pass, there will always be some form of bullying.  Given that most government skools offer no proper punishments for kids anyway (detention, suspension, and expulsion are not punishments for sociopaths), I find it laughable that any law passed would have some teeth to it.

And if there are any kids who are being bullied out there and reading this, understand that your school years are not the best years of your life and they are not for most of us.  Only the bullies regard them as such because after school, they will have trouble in adulthood.  Bullies do not go far in life as most employers frown upon people who bully and usually fire them.  Relationship-wise, they will fail as well because while the hot chick is attracted to the rugged nerd-beater in high skool, she will eventually grow up and realize that she needs someone more stable like you.  Or fire out a few bastard babies and end up living a life in poverty with her high skool “sweetheart.”  Just hang in there and take it from someone like me whose bully scars are fading away: it ultimately does not really matter.