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Monday, December 15, 2014

Female Scientist Blames Porn For Bad Dating Culture

So I read through this article last week, which highlights the Female Imperative beautifully:

Men who regularly watch pornography are more likely to depend on it to stay aroused but are less likely to enjoy sex with a real-life partner, a new study says.

The “media scripts” that men absorb when they view pornography can play a role in their sexual activities, said Arkansas psychologist Ana Bridges and other academics in New York and Virginia.

After studying 487 male college students, the researchers found that the more men used pornography, the more likely they were to try to act out the same scenes and rely on pornography-inspired fantasies to engage in sex.

I am not going to dispute the softcore science in this article because I don’t think the “science” was properly reported.  At best, I can only say that they had too small a sample and focused on a single group of men.

But I’m not a social softcore scientist.

Now, I’m not going to say that pornography is good and there is nothing wrong with it.  There is plenty of things that are wrong with it.  I consider my own past usage of pornography (mostly Lesbian porn) to be a vice that I need to overcome.  I make no excuses for it nor do I consider such behavior normal.

So, yes, I consider pornography to be damaging for men in how they relate to women.

But that is not the point of this article.  The point is to shame men.  Here’s why:

  • At no point were the effects of pornography on women ever even considered.  Women use pornography almost as much as men these days and I am certain that it damages their own relational attitudes toward men.
  • A woman’s primary vice is envy.  With that in mind, I consider the study, which was run by a female softcore scientist, to be based in envy.
  • The reasons for studying the effects of pornography on men is because women don’t like competition.  Within Western society, more and more men are finding themselves unable to relate to women because they are wasting their younger, attractive years on ALPHA (non-committed) men and leaving the stable BETAs for when they are about to hit the wall.  So more and more men are turning to porn because they are tired of dealing with women who are more interested in higher grade men for a quick fuck (I know, it’s crude, but it is reality).

I don’t like men turning to pornography either.  But just as a wife who withholds sex from her husband bears some responsibility for his porn viewing (note the some part of the sentence), women bear some responsibility for the rampant porn usage by men.

I am not asking for women to become pornstars with their partners and spouses.  I am not justifying men who demand that their ladies become their own private pornstars (although there is nothing wrong with asking for something more than missionary).  I am merely pointing out that the reality of dating only benefits 20% of all men, many of whom are only interested in a notch in their belt.  It also spoils women for their future husbands as the median number of past sexual partners for women before marriage is ~4, which increases the likelihood of divorce.

America is supposedly a Christian nation.  I know, many churches consider all other churches to be not true Christians, but you have to accept that 82% of Americans consider themselves to be a Christian.  With that in mind, we have to look at Biblical marriage, which is an institution for pursuing romantic love, not a social contract for monogamous dating.

But that won’t change any time soon.  We can blame pornography for men’s indifference to female attention all we want, but the fact is that dating has become the ALPHA’s game and most men are left with their dicks in their hands.